Ok at first I thought my issue may have been related to this with a black screen and a cursor and yes I have ISPConfig installed as this is a test server. everything was working until I reboot that is why I tied this post first.
So I tried everything listed in that thread and linking threads but nothing seems to fix the issue.
here is what is happending when I try to start the gui.
in "terminal mode" I try "X" resulting in:
Fatal server error:
Server is already active for display 0
If this server is no longer running, remove /tmp/.X0-lock and start again.
... trying "startx" produces an identical message as above then a small pause then this message:
Invalid MIT-MAGIC-COOKIE-1 keygiving up.
xinit: Resource temporarily unavailable (errno 11): unable to connect to X server
xinit: No such process (errno 3): Server error.
Please keep in mind I am very new to linux and know the very basic commands so I really apperciate the help. I have been searching for a fix for couple hours with no luck. Thanks in advance..