I did disable ipv6, and have dug into resolv.conf, which showed me it only searched my own gateway... not good. I added a search lan and a couple of the nameservers my isp runs, and it seems that was what caused the problems.
I don't use the namewerver ispconfig installs, maybe that's part of the problem as well, but since my isp hase good servers, i thought, why bother running my own. maybe I should consider it though...
Thanks for thinking with me,