Cheers guys for answer.But i gave up working on this and i went backwords on configuration which is here
http://www.howtoforge.org/forums/showthread.php?t=9744.I'm trying to add tls and spam filtering to my mail system , on the gateway host .Mysql integration wen really bad i didn't get any mail dlivered in the last days.All my mail,work,fun,friends,linux,mailing lists,server log status,relay on this so i rather move email connection encryption and spam filetring on an another to not bear on a machine has already apache apache-ssl courier-ssl mysql,and only 250 mb of ram.