ok so instead of
default 0
timeout 20
splashimage=(hd0,0)/grub/splash.xpm.gz
title=Gentoo Linux 2.6.12-r6
root (hd0,4)
kernel /kernel-2.6.11-gentoo-r11
root=/dev/hda5
it should have been:
default 0
timeout 20
splashimage=(hd0,0)/grub/splash.xpm.gz
title=Gentoo Linux 2.6.12-r6
root (hd0,0)
kernel /kernel-2.6.11-gentoo-r11
root=/dev/hda1
But my next problem comes in here

I know, I am sorry

I went ahead and turned off the computer because It was 0500 in the morning. now I cant get back to where I was. when I try to mount and chroot i get file or directory not found. so I dont know how to mount back in to see my grub.conf of I just messed it up anyway and have to start over? I hope not but I will.