thanks i missed your response falko, im pretty sure DNS records are OK but even still if they aren't i dont think i can change them as im using DynDns. Also the output of `postconf -d | grep mail_version` is:
mail_version = 2.2.4
also i dont know if you read it but i mentioned that and also that i had the latest quota patch applied...i guess you just needed to be sure.
Thanks man, also the logs are *not* attached (i couldnt be bothered to get them to this box as the mail server has no ftp or http, i did put them on my shared apache but but) attached and the tails of both were edited into the other post. The logs can be found at http://uberhosting.ath.cx/~geekman/mail.log
Ok so now i *have* uploaded them, sometimes i surprise even my own mind