thank you for your response,
I had to follow cod 2, because I did not do step 12 of the instructions because I just wanted ISPconfig, and not the rest.
so I installed MYSQL as instructed via your code. now I get to the same step
MySQL charset [utf8]: <-- ENTER
and i'm now getting this error:
ERROR 2002 (HY000): Can't connect to local MySQL server through socket '/tmp/mysqld.sock' (2)
ERROR: Unable to load SQL-Dump into database table.
Edit: Could this have anything to do with the fact that i'm doing this remotely from school to my home PC?