Ok, I'll try my luck again even though it seems nobody is reading this thread anymore :-)
I got it all working just fine with one exception:
Every 1-2 days I find that maldet is no longer running in monitor mode. The inotify process is still there but maldet died. I then have to kill the inotify proces, restart maldet in monitor mode.
No idea why, nothing in my logs, anyone else seen this behavior?