ok, now i did set up my machine with a fresh installation of ubuntu server 12.10 and followed the instructions step by step. this time, i managed to compile PHP - FPM (didnt use the one with fastcgi) and successfully ran <make> and <make> install.
after that, the tut jumps directly to the ispconfig control panel, so i think it should be installed already, but i still cant manage to access it. what did i miss?
the output of
ls -la /etc/apache2/sites-enabled/
ls -la /etc/apache2/sites-available/
is still the same.
i did suggest that ispconfig isnt installed yet, but i did not find a command line tutorial to install it. my server now hasnt got a GUI so i'd need to install one first.