Thanks for the suggestion!
intodns wont give me any data at all, which is strange... here is what it stalls at:
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Can't get nameservers at parent server!<br>I only check domains not subdomains!
i have let it work for over an hour, to no success.
how can it be a dns problem if mail generated and sent from the service i mentioned above did get through to the mailbox? which is exactly why i got to thinking it is a courier pop3 issue...