In the guide for fedora 8 it said to enter into the transport table:
INSERT INTO `transport` (`domain`, `transport`) VALUES ('example.com', 'smtp:mail.example.com');
It says it IF you want to fil it, it should look like this, but a fast copyer reader like me missed that part so there it went into an infinite loop. and that made it die.
figured it out when i was matching my config to my old servers config, and noticed i never used that table!
My tip to the guide, put a red note with it
thnx a lot for all your help guys! =)